something borrowed…

…from derek at ‘i like their old stuff better’...

“…Love your neighbour as yourself.”
-Mark 12:31

To love our neighbour well, we must love ourselves well. Most of us love ourselves too much in some ways and too little in other ways.

We love ourselves too much when we ignore the suffering of the stranger because doing something for the stranger is inconvenient. We love ourselves too little when we make ourselves strangers from other people and from God.

We love ourselves too much when we are quick to serve ourselves before we serve others. We love ourselves too little when we don’t spent time with God, receiving His free gift of love and allowing Him to serve us.

We love ourselves too much when we associate with and befriend people based only on their value to us, whether that value be social, economic, emotional, or otherwise. We love ourselves too little when we live in patterns of self-rejection and feelings of worthlessness.

We love ourselves too much when we build our self-worth and identity on our own popularity or success. We love ourselves too little when we fail to thank God for the success and popularity he has given us, and fail to ask for more with the confidence of knowing that He knows what we need.

Sometimes we need to learn to love ourselves before we can love others. Sometimes we need to learn to love others before we can love ourselves. An effort in both directions, followed by reflection and prayer, is probably the most simple way to discern where to concentrate.

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